5 signs he's just using you for sex, not love

By Andria Spark 

As much as we’d like to see the good in everyone, there are some men that unfortunately make us want to trash this way of thinking. Because what good is a guy that only thinks with one part of his brain? Women are complex, and don’t get me wrong—it’s perfectly fine to have a strictly physical relationship, if that’s what you’re into. But it’s another thing if he’s telling you that it’s more than just sex when he knows it isn’t. How can you tell? 

1. There is barely any communication 

What little conversations you have together constitute as “pillow talk” or are simply awkward chats to break the silence. When he does decide to call or make time for you (at inappropriate hours), it’s nothing that would involve any quality discussions. He’s just looking to talk dirty to you under the sheets. Anytime you bring up other topics of interest, he has no comment. 

2. He makes his time commitment known 

Whenever you attempt to schedule a date with him, there’s always “a thing” he has planned (even if you’re trying to catch him a month in advance). He is never flexible with you nor does he suggest an alternate day or time when he will be available. 

3. He won’t spend time with you in group settings 

He never agrees to hang out with you if your friends are tagging along. You also don’t know much about his personal life, family, friends or past relationships. And whenever you ask if you can meet his people, he shuts you down and tells you they’re not around or that it’s not the right time. 

4. No interest in you as a person 

Aside from your body, he doesn’t seem to show much interest in anything else about you. He never asks about your hobbies, your career or other things you enjoy doing. He’s more into his fantasies with you. 

5. He’s not broke but he’s cheap 

Forget gifts, meals, anything that would involve him spending money. He’s incredibly stingy when it comes to you, about his funds and his feelings. If he were invested in you at all, he would at least try to be more vulnerable and open about himself. You shouldn’t have to convince him that you’ll be the one buying dinner for him to agree to a real date. Shame on him!