By Piscore James
I want to date you is not a marriage proposal or a
visa to marriage; it just means I want to study you; I
want to find out if it’s worth locking down the rest of
my life with you.
It means I want to test you with a small portion of
my life today to determine if you are worth
entrusting the rest of my life with. It means
discovering who you are, your true colours; a friend
about whom you learn something new every day.
It has nothing to do with changing you to become
who I want. It boils down to making a decision on
your findings, whether you liked what you
discovered or not.
It is not a promise of marriage and it also means I
can go ahead and marry anyone I wish if you are not
the right person for me. It involves no commitments
and no hard feelings, just a learning ground for the
two of us.
We should be able to embrace the outcome and
never try to change anyone to become who we want.
In life, the only person you can change is you,
besides you, you have no power to change anyone.
The young people who have turned dating upside
down, interpreting it as a marriage proposal, and
treating a boyfriend or girlfriend like a husband or
wife; you are very wrong.
It’s unfortunate for a boyfriend or girlfriend to try
changing the other; beating and assaulting each
other in the aid of change, or policing and reporting
each other to their family and friends all in the name
of dating.
Dating is for the matured who is ready for marriage;
not for the boyfriend or girlfriend who is looking for
an avenue to experiment marriage.
At this stage you are not responsible for each other’s
upkeep, nor responsible for each other’s sexual and
emotional needs.
Allow me to know who you are and if I am happy
with it, I will naturally fall in love with you then make
a decision on marriage; but don't force me into
marriage when I barely know you.
Discover and fall in love....
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