In life, sometimes we ask for an apple and life give us lemons. Many have lost track, hope, confidence, friends, because of various encounters in life. In high school my physics teacher taught me that “to every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”. This is newton’s third law of motion, which basically explains how forces must balance up. I want to assume that when Newton was coming up with principles like the one quoted; he went through hard times this is to assume he chose to subject his life to public criticism for his theories, dedicated most of his time studying when others were busy having fun and perhaps hardly had good food because of his tight schedule for his works. However his tireless efforts and hard times turned out to be worth celebrating. His science theories have outlived him and decades after the other have digested them for their studies.
From childhood to date, I have encountered setbacks which at times make me lose hope and confidence. I guess you also have encountered in some serious setbacks which depresses at times. Basing judgments on frustrating moment’s rather hard times, it is sufficed to be “shocked” for some reasons, is it? Yes, No or maybe obviously are the expected answers. Others would go as far as answering a question in a question format like why asking me such a question? Remember that moment when you lost your Wife, Husband, Dad, Mum, Brother, Sister, Niece etc. I bet this was one your trying moment or hard time right? As they say such hard times come and go. Remember also that moment when you were duped by people you never expected to dupe you. That moment when you were dumped by your boy/girlfriend obviously it was very painful and took time to hill isn’t it? That moment when you failed an exam. Don’t forget when all your family, friend and associates forsook and neglected you when you needed them most, so painful and if anything one of the hardest time in life isn’t it?
Well, each time I go to Clinics, Hospices and Hospitals, I find people crying because their beloved one are no more “dead”. When I go to Musonda, Kuku, Nkwazi, Chipulukusu, John Laing compound I find people who had a meal 2 days ago and yet when I wake up in the morning I manage to have at least three meals a day. When I look at my age groups, neighbors, friends, most of them want to go to school and attain quality education but because of finances they are unable to go school. When I go in the corporate world I find queues of people looking for employment. When I reflect on all these I come to conclude that I am living a better life compared to others despite going through hard times and that nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, someone they need, or something they thought was meant to be. But it is these losses that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities for growth and happiness.
Some of you have gone through several hardships, including the sudden death of a sibling, the loss of a best friend to illness, betrayal from a business partner, and an unexpected (breadwinning) employment layoff. These experiences were brutal. Each of them, naturally, knocked us down and off course for a period of time. But when our time of mourning was over in each individual circumstance, we pressed forward, stronger, and with a greater understanding and respect for life.
I want to believe that, you are not what happened to you in the past. – No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. You are not your past habits. You are not your past failures. You are not how others have at one time treated you. You are only who you think you are right now in this moment. You are only what you do right now in this moment. You are who you are and you have what you have, right now. And it can’t be that bad, because otherwise you wouldn’t be able to read this. The important thing is simply to find one POSITIVE thought that inspires and helps you move forward. Hold on to it strongly, and focus on it. You may feel like you don’t have much, or anything at all, but you have your mind to inspire you. And that’s really all you need to start moving forward again.
Be reminded that struggling with problems is a natural part of growing. – Part of living and growing up is experiencing unexpected troubles in life. People lose jobs, get sick, and sometimes die in car accidents. When you are younger, and things are going pretty well, this harsh reality can be hard to visualize. The smartest, and oftentimes hardest, thing we can do in these kinds of situations is to be tempered in our reactions. To want to scream obscenities, but to wiser and more disciplined than that. To remember that emotional rage only makes matters worse. And to remember that tragedies are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger. Life is fragile, sudden, and shorter than it often seems. You have the capacity to create your own happiness. – Feelings change, people change, and time keeps rolling. You can hold onto past mistakes or you can create your own happiness. A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy. True happiness comes from within. View every challenge as an educational assignment. – Ask yourself: “What is this situation meant to teach me?” Every situation in our lives has a lesson to teach us. To become stronger. To communicate more clearly. To trust your instincts. To express your love. To forgive. To know when to let go. To try something new.
Giving up and moving on are two very different things. – There comes a point when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up, and it’s not the end. It’s a new beginning. It’s realizing, finally, that you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring.
You’re not alone. Everyone has problems. – To lose sleep worrying about a friend. To have trouble picking yourself up after someone lets you down. To feel like less because someone didn’t love you enough to stay. To be afraid to try something new for fear you’ll fail. None of this means you’re dysfunctional or crazy. It just means you’re human, and that you need a little time to right yourself. You are not alone. No matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, there are others out there experiencing the same emotions. When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it is your mind trying to sell you a lie.
Life is NOT easy. – If you expect it to be, you will perpetually disappoint yourself. Achieving anything worthwhile in life takes effort. So start every morning ready to run farther than you did yesterday and fight harder than you ever have before. Above all, make sure you properly align your efforts with your goals. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
YOU HAVE EVERY REASON TO CELEBRATE YOUR HARDTIMES
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