By Kimanzi Constable
Are you living or existing?
That’s a tough question to answer. At this point, I can honestly tell you
I’m living. It wasn’t always this way though.
If you would have talked to me three years ago, you would have been
depressed.
It was a cold Wisconsin morning and I was doing what I
normally did at midnight, I was delivering bread. I had been doing this
job for twelve years but still couldn’t get used to those hours.
More than that, I wasn’t passionate about the job. I wanted more – so
much more – but with no college degree and no special skills, what could I
do?
I had so many doubts, so many fears, so many negative voices telling
me I could never chase my dream. I simply existed.
Enough was enough. Three years ago I told everyone who would listen
that I was going to make a change. After thinking about what I wanted to
do, something kept screaming at me.
A long lost love came back into my
life: writing.
Writing? Are you kidding me? How can I make money writing? At that
point I didn’t care; the dream was just too strong.
I started a blog and
took my journal that I had been keeping about work.
Ebooks were becoming popular so I decided to turn my collection of
thoughts into an ebook, sell 10,000 copies and become rich and famous.
As you can probably guess, things didn’t exactly work out that way.
The book came out in August of 2011 and for the next six months sold
five copies. I was completely crushed. After two weeks of crying myself
to sleep, something really woke up me up to my dream.
A young man who regularly read my blog contacted me and said he was
inspired to quit his job. I asked him if we could talk and we did. Even
though I wasn’t a life coach or anything like that, I wanted to help.
We worked through his dream job and over the next month, he got that
job.
At that moment my dream became clear: I wanted to help those
people just like me – the ones who were existing, the ones who wanted
more but didn’t know how to get it.
The rest is history as they say, right? Not really! At that point is when I
truly became a writer.
Instead of focusing on myself, I started writing to
help people and add value to their lives anyway I could.
When I opened up, people responded and a few of them bought the book.
Some shared it on social media and a few more people bought the book.
I
then researched how to get the word out.
I’ll fast forward for you: I released a second book, I guest posted on some
of the largest and coolest sites around. Over the next two years, both
eBooks ended up selling over 80,000 copies.
I don’t want to give you the impression that this just happened; it was a
lot of hard work, sweat and tears.
When the books started selling, I got a little exposure.
I was invited to
speak at a conference in West Virginia. I never imagined I could speak,
but once I did it, I wanted more. In the last two years I have spoken at
conferences all over the world: 11 states and 10 countries.
I just got back from a three-week speaking tour in Kenya, London and
Paris. My wife sure enjoyed the “perks” of my “job.”
If all this wasn’t
enough, on April 8th, 2014, my family and I are moving to Hawaii. One
of our family’s main dreams is finally becoming true!
This can be your story
When people hear my story, they’re usually inspired. What I want to
scream from the rooftops is that this can be your story too. One of the
biggest lessons I’ve learned is that your dream will never be your reality if
you don’t believe it.
Experts will tell you that you have to change your “mindset” but I say
you’re choosing to believe in yourself instead of believing those doubts
and fears. This won’t be easy, but most “cool” things in life aren’t.
Once you truly believe, you can then do something about it; you can take
action on your dream.
Figure out what your dream truly is. Research the heck out of that dream.
Put a solid step-by-step plan together and take small steps.
Realize there will always be bumps on the road, have a shoulder to lean
and maybe cry on. Above all, focus on your “why” and keep pushing
forward. Do you want to do something cool in 2014? Stop existing and
start truly living, you can do this!
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